I’ll readily admit that I can be a Negative Nelly.
(OK, I begrudgingly admit it – true to form.)
A Debbie Downer.
“It’ll never work.”
“What will go wrong next?”
“We’re screwed.”
As Mr. Clear (great name, btw) points out, seeing the positive doesn’t involve putting on rose-colored glasses. It’s just – as Amy Krouse Rosenthal put it – paying attention to what you pay attention to.
“Chad” (a.k.a. our 2008 Honda CR-V) recently hit a mileage milestone.
240,000 miles. And he’s not dead yet.
Most of those miles were courtesy of previous owners. We got “Chad” (our kids named him… er, I mean, it) nearly 8 years ago. He already had clocked 181,000 by then. As “used” as used can be.
But nearly 60K is certainly something to celebrate. That’s a lot of trips to high school for our kids. A lot of trips to work for me (although I often take the bus – Chad deserves a break). Grocery gettin’. Driving to pickleball or concerts (my two most frequent trips).
Yes, we’ve had to put some money into repairs and general maintenance. But we’re probably making the equivalent of a monthly car payment about two or three times a year, instead of 12. And I’ve got a mechanic who does side-hustle work on nights and weekends for much lower rates than the dealer or other repair shops.
“Buy and hold” – that’s our stock philosophy and our car philosophy.
There’s no touchscreen display. No bluetooth. No backup camera. No heated seats. Nothing fancy. Just dependable. When you turn the key, Chad starts. And goes. And keeps on going. And as long as that happens, we’ll keep rolling with Chad.
“Good work can be good without being popular.” Amen to that, Brother Seth! In keeping with the music reference that Seth made, I know dozens of bands who have created brilliant music but never got popular. There’s the famous Brian Eno quote about the Velvet Underground:
“I was talking to Lou Reed the other day, and he said that the first Velvet Underground record sold only 30,000 copies in its first five years. Yet, that was an enormously important record for so many people. I think everyone who bought one of those 30,000 copies started a band!”
But the key part of Seth’s gospel passage is “begin by becoming comfortable with what good feels like to you.”
To YOU. Not anyone else. When it’s good, you’ll know it in your heart. And if you stay true to your heart (and gut) and keep doing the work, your good will get better.
This past Friday night, Milwaukee singer/songwriter Brett Newski played a free show in the lounge at the Southgate House in Newport, KY.
The music was great, but the crowd could best be described as “sparse.” However, there was a woman in the audience who knew the lyrics to every song Brett sang. She was mouthing along (not, it should be noted, singing along) to every tune. So much so that Brett commented on it from the stage – he was duly impressed.
After the show, that same woman and her husband talked to Brett at the merch booth, and the woman got a photo with him. Afterward, she was crying tears of joy. So of course, i had to put on my roving reporter hat and go up to the couple, and find out the backstory.
Actually, I just complimented her – said it was great to see someone so passionate about Brett’s music. But I did get the backstory – her husband likes discovering new artists, and makes mix CDs for his wife. A Brett Newski song was on one of them, and Meghan (with a “h”… I asked, as good reporters do) was hooked.
Great news for Meghan: Brett and his band will be back in town this summer, playing a house concert. My friend Jacqui (the OG Brett Newski superfan – she and her hubby Dave hosted him at her house for a concert, and now they offer him and his band free room and board and a complimentary breakfast whenever they roll through town) introduced me to the couple who will be hosting the summer show (all of us were at the Southgate show), and I passed along the ticket info to Meghan.
House concerts. Lounge shows. It’s not 20,000 plus at Madison Square Garden – but it doesn’t matter. Brett Newski played to an appreciative crowd (including people who turn their homes into concert venues and Quality Inns for him), and got to meet someone who truly loves his music. And Meghan got to meet the person who creates art that she adores. That sort of connection doesn’t fill anyone’s bank account, but it nourishes the soul.
On Sunday, a Philly band called Gladie played at the Northside Tavern.
The music was great, but the crowd could best be described as “sparse.”
However, there was an old man there who knew (most of) the lyrics to every song Gladie played, and was mouthing along (not singing along) right near the stage. And he got to talk to the band after the show and let them know how much he loves their music. You won’t find that at Madison Square Garden. And my ticket costs less than the service fees for most big shows.
Have you found your Newski? Your Gladie? It doesn’t have to be a musician. If there’s someone who creates art that nourishes your soul, let them know, and find a way to support them. Before you squander more sunsets…
Batman & Robin are blasé compared to the real Dynamic Duo.
It isn’t Batman & Robin, it’s Carol & Robin:
I met them eons ago in college. They were a couple of years younger than our gang, but they became our pseudo kid sisters… mainly because two of their friends actually were kid sisters of two guys in our gang. At a small school like Xavier, it wasn’t long until all of us knew all of them and their larger group of friends.
[I’m not sure if Carol’s in the photo above – someone’s giant hair may be blocking her – but this is their squad, for sure.]
They’re NOT two peas in a pod. More like yin and yang. Or sugar and spice. Or sugar and hot sauce. Carol hails from Indianapolis. Robin’s a Cleveland kid. Carol’s a gentle soul, and Robin’s brash and bawdy. But the alchemy that happens when they get together is nothing short of amazing. It’s also usually nothing but trouble — in the best way possible.
Every time they meet up – which is often – it’s like they’re 18 all over again. Robin instigates. Carol aids and abets in the shenanigans. Robin starts laughing. Carol starts laughing and can’t stop. Next thing you know, everyone is laughing.
Even though they live in different cities (they’re back in their hometowns), they are inseparable soul mates. (Just don’t tell Carol’s husband or Robin’s boyfriend… actually they both already know it.)
Best friends are never apart, maybe in distance but never in heart.” – Helen Keller
If you’ve found the Carol to your Robin, or the Robin to your Carol, consider yourself truly blessed. Even if you just know a Carol & Robin, you’re lucky. They bring joy to each other, obviously. You wouldn’t invest 40+ years into someone who brings you down. But the special bond they have radiates outward. Twin suns, brightening up our days. They bring joy to the world — especially the folks like us who are lucky enough to be in their orbit often.
UConn and Michigan face off tonight for the NCAA D-1 Championship in men’s hoops. But in the NIL era, it’s really tough for alums to thump their chest if “their” team wins, because most of the players are just stopping by for “one shining moment” or two.
Michigan’s starting five features only one player who was with the program last year. In fact, Nimari Burnett has been with the program for a whopping 3 years… after playing a year each at Texas Tech and Alabama. The other starters did stints at Illinois, UCLA, UNC, UAB, and even Michigan’s dreaded archrival Ohio State. (Money talks a lot louder than some “O-H” chant, apparently.)
Starter Yaxel Lendeborg left UAB after last season, and it was less about Michigan’s “maize and blue” colors and more about good old gold.
UConn’s starting squad fares a bit better in the loyalty department. Solo Ball is solo on schools – he’s been at UConn for 3 years. Braylon Mullins is a freshman, so he’s a “lifer” too – because he’ll likely depart for the NBA at the end of the season. Their starting center, Tarris Reed Jr., spent 2 years at Michigan before heading to greener pastures. (And I’m not talking about the dairy farm next to UConn’s campus.)
Alex Karaban is the outlier – he’s been with the Huskies his entire four-year career.
He’s not just an outlier on his school’s roster, he’s an outlier on ANY major college basketball roster:
Players are getting paid. Good for them. At least in the short run. But what happens when they run out of eligibility and the money train doesn’t stop at their house anymore?
The entire current system is horrible for “college” basketball. (I have to put “college” in quotation marks because how much time are these kids spending in the classroom? And how hard is it to get a degree when you change schools every year?) As a fan, you can’t get too attached to particular players, because every single one of them is a free agent, available to the highest bidder.
Michigan’s investment in their players has paid off. The Wolverines are favored to bring home the hardware this evening. But as soon as the confetti hits the hardwood, other schools will be trying to lure their best players away, with the siren song of cold, hard cash.
By all accounts, the Iran “don’t call it a war” war has been a unmitigated disaster, an utter folly, a colossal mistake.
Oh wait, not by ALL accounts. There are some bank accounts who have rated it a rousing success, based on their totally coincidental investments in oil and S&P500 futures, just minutes before a Trump tweet last Monday hinting at an end to the war.
Hmm, who could’ve had such insider information? Perhaps the ED boys? (That’s Eric and Donald Jr.) They learned grifting and cheating and gaming the system from daddy, just like Donald did from Fred.
Trump’s approval rating is in the dumper, but here’s the only stat he really cares about.
Now the Pentagon – led by a man who thinks he’s the star of a Jerry Bruckheimer action movie, where the death and destruction are merely CGI – is asking for another $200 billion for the war. If approved, here’s what it’ll cost the average taxpayer, compared to other allocations.
Grocery prices – which the Orange Oligarch promised to bring down on Day 1 – are soaring. As are gas prices. Here’s our daily life in a nutshell:
And there’s another crisis looming – the AI bubble could easily burst and take the entire global economy down with it, thanks to Operation Epic Fury Failure. Check out this story from The Atlantic. Here’s a key excerpt:
These are dark days indeed. But there may be a glimmer of hope. And that glimmer is coming from the sun.
This past Tuesday, I drove two-and-a-half hours to see a tribute band.
It wasn’t Hells Belles (female AC/DC tribute band).
It wasn’t Pink Talking Fish (tribute to Pink Floyd, Talking Heads, and Phish)
It wasn’t the Hot Red Chili Peppers (tribute to the Red Hot Chili Peppers).
It wasn’t Mini KISS (KISS tribute band of little people).
It was less a tribute band, and more of a supergroup — with an Oscar-nominated actor — paying tribute to R.E.M.
Jason Narducy (touring bassist for Superchunk and Bob Mould’s band, also releases solo music as Split Single) first teamed up with Michael Shannon [Oscar nominations for the Academy Award for Best Supporting Actor, for Revolutionary Road (2008) and Nocturnal Animals (2016)] to play R.E.M. songs back in 2023.
The Shannon-Narducy project started as a one-off in a July 2023 show at Chicago’s Metro honoring Murmur’s 40th anniversary, built on a decade-long tradition of the two middle-aged men learning and performing a complete album—Bob Dylan, The Smiths, Modern Lovers—as a single event, never repeated. The Metro show sold 925 tickets on 30 days’ notice, in summer, when every street festival in Chicago is competing for attention.
Clearly there was an audience for this show. So they took it on the road.
None of this [touring] was planned in any way, shape, or form,” Narducy says. “I can tell you that.” But promoters around the country started emailing. The first tour was nine shows. Narducy financed it on two credit cards. “My credit score dropped 250 points,” he says, chuckling.
(same source as above)
This year, “Michael Shannon & Jason Narducy & Friends” was playing the R.E.M. album Lifes Rich Pageant from front to back, along with several other R.E.M. tunes. And the rest of the band members are names any indie rocker would recognize:
John Stirratt (Wilco) on bass. Jon Wurster (Mountain Goats and Bob Mould, formerly of Superchunk) on drums. Dag Juhlin (The Slugs, Poi Dog Pondering) and Vijay Tellis-Nayak (“One of Chicago’s most sought-after musicians — pianist, keyboardist, composer, arranger, engineer, and producer”) on keyboards.
The tour was selling out 1,000+ seat venues. I went to the final show of the tour, at the 288-capacity Bluebird Nightclub in Bloomington, Indiana. (Lifes Rich Pageant was recorded in that town 40 years ago.)
If you think Michael Shannon is just dabbling in music, think again. He’s put in the work to do justice to Michael Stipe’s vocal stylings.
I would’ve loved the show even if it were just the stellar band doing 23 R.E.M. songs. But they had a special guest joining them for several tunes: R.E.M. bassist/vocalist Mike Mills.
And he loved it too!
Nostalgia can be a trap. But R.E.M. songs meant a lot to a lot of folks in my age bracket. And a chance to reconnect with those songs — and with one of the guys who created them — was magical. Not just for us, but for Mike Mills too. “The power, and the joy, of an R.E.M. show… keeping the joy of our music alive for us, and for our fans.”
So it wasn’t a tribute band. It was great band, playing tribute to another great band that paved the way for them.
… we are young despite the years… we are hope despite the times…
R.E.M. “These Days”
BTW, Jason Narducy is playing a solo “songs and stories” show at my house on May 14. You can get tickets here.
The Miami Redhawks men’s basketball team takes on Tennessee in the NCAA tourney this afternoon. A #11 seed vs. a #6 seed. Miami has already won – literally and figuratively. They won their “play-in” game Wednesday night in Dayton against SMU. I was there. It felt like a Miami home game with most of the crowd cheering for the school that’s a mere 46 miles from Dayton.
But they’ve also already won because they are, as my friend Joe says, “the best story in college basketball.” Undefeated in the regular season. 31-0. With a homegrown roster of mostly midwestern kids. And a coach (Travis Steele) seeking redemption after being fired by a school (Xavier) just down the road in Cincinnati.
Critics — and they are legion — sneered. “They haven’t played anybody.” “The MAC is a weak conference.”
But they beat everyone who was on their schedule.
Yes, they pay their players – all D1 schools do in the NIL era. But their “salary cap” (it feels weird typing that for college sports) is much smaller than the Floridas, the Dukes, the Tennessees. They’re not getting the blue chippers, they’re getting the blue collars. But they are a great team – offensively, defensively, shooting, passing — because their starters all played together at Miami last year. In the transfer portal era, that’s unheard of. And frankly, refreshing.
A lot of their regular season games were nail-biters. They won because they’d been there, done that. Muscle memory and belief in their teammates.
“Oh, we more than belong,” Steele said, with his entire team behind him. “We can advance deep into this tournament. Our group’s fully confident in that.”
Miami’s Cinderella season will end. Maybe this afternoon (although I think they can beat Tennessee – especially if it’s close in crunch time). But teams like the Redhawks are what make March Madness so much fun. The High Points are the high points. Yes, a “power conference” team will wind up hoisting the trophy. And then most of their roster will immediately seek a bigger payday. Good for them. But I miss the days when the players were less mercenary.
Miami University’s motto is “Love and Honor.”
Their basketball team embodies that. And we need more Miami U. in college sports.
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